“So, Do You Want Natural or Nah? 'Cause I’m Confused.”
Okay. Let’s talk.
This isn’t a motivational speech. I’m not here to gas up natural girls like we’re flawless queens who wake up glowing and never use a filter. No. I filter my selfies too—sometimes my camera doesn’t even understand what I’m going through, okay?
I’m just here to RANT.
Because I’m confused. Deeply.
Do you men want natural women or not?
Every time someone interviews a guy on the street:
“What kind of women do you like?”
“My type? Natural, bro. Natural hair, natural body, natural face. I don’t like all that fake stuff.”
BUT.
Yes, there's always a but—your actions say otherwise.
Because the second a woman walks in with a body built like it was photoshopped in real life, with legs that look like they’re holding on for dear life under those inflated hips—you lose your mind.
Suddenly, "natural" flies out the window and you’re sprinting toward Barbie 2.0 like there’s a prize.
So I’m asking: WHAT DO YOU REALLY WANT?
Because y’all are making it hard for us. We’re out here chilling, being ourselves. Real hair, real body, sometimes real crusty—but real. And still, we watch the same men who preach “natural is better” turn around and date women who look like they were sponsored by a plastic surgeon.
And I’m not even mad at those women. They can do whatever they want. But what’s annoying is the double standard.
Men saying, “We don’t like fake girls,” but your whole phone gallery looks like a BBL promo.
( Nicky Minaj's body then versus now)You praise real but you chase fake.
You judge women for changing themselves but won’t give us attention unless we look like we were assembled in a lab.
And then you act shocked when girls start changing themselves too.
Can you see the cycle?
So let’s just be honest. That’s all I’m asking.
Stop pretending you want one thing and then running after another.
Stop saying natural is beautiful if you’re only going to look at it and then scroll past it for the “enhanced” version.
Pick. A. Side.
Because it’s exhausting trying to figure out what you actually want. We’re not gonna keep guessing while you play both sides.
And no—we’re not perfect either. We filter our pictures. We have insecurities too. We’re not out here claiming to be better than anyone. We just want clarity. Consistency. Honesty.
So, to the men reading this:
If you love natural, love it loud.
If you like the “enhanced” look, say it with your chest.
But please, don’t say one thing and do the other.
Because some of us are TIRED of hearing “you’re wife material” while you wife the opposite.
Let’s just all be real.
That’s all I want.
Signed,
A girl who filters (some) of her pic, and is just tired of the confusion.
