How I Survived My Second Interview Without Crying (Mostly)

I Showed Up in Tekkies and Chaos Decided to Attend Too: My Second Job Interview

Four days before my interview, I got the SMS. Yep. Out of nowhere. I was doing my chores, folding laundry, thinking about absolutely nothing stressful, when my phone buzzes. And I freeze. My heart does that weird flip thing, and I’m like: Okay, calm down, Lilo, it’s just an interview… but inside, I’m screaming, panicking, overthinking, and trying to memorize everything about the company all at once.

Fast forward to the morning of the interview. I woke up at half past six, jumped into the shower like my life depends on it, brushed my teeth, and picked out my outfit. Tekkies on. Simple, neat, casual—but cute. Checked my documents one last time: ID, matric certificate, CV—all there. Lip gloss? Check. Phone charged? Check. Confidence… assembling itself slowly.

Transport arrives. I hop in, trying to play cool, trying not to think about the hundreds of other people who were probably going to be there. My brain screams: You’ve only got one shot at this, don’t mess it up.

We arrive, and… chaos. Absolute chaos. I expected maybe ten people. Nope. There were like… hundreds. People everywhere, chatting, laughing, some looking ready for a formal photo shoot, others like they rolled straight out of bed. And me? The only Congolese 🇨🇩, standing there trying not to look like I was silently crying inside. 😬

I watched people go in and come out. Whispering. Sharing tips. Giving side-eye. And I just stood there, legs stiff, nerves growing, silently praying I wouldn’t faint before my turn. Some people were neat, others… let’s just say fashion was optional. I stayed casual, neat enough to not look like a complete mess, but also comfortable enough to survive the wait.

Finally, it’s my turn. I walk in. She sits. I stand. Classic interview move, right? I hand over my documents, smile like I’m fine, even though my heart is doing gymnastics. She asks about me. Not the company. Not the role. Just me. My background, where I live, what I’ve done. I answer, trying to sound composed, while internally thinking: Why did I overthink this so much?

I ask two questions, like a pro (because I am a professional pro girl, okay?). What qualities does she look for in warehouse assistants? Attention to detail. Flexibility. Proactivity. Got it. And could a temporary assistant get a permanent role? Possible… but not likely. Ouch.

I even asked why other people were told they’d hear back Wednesday while I wasn’t. Her answer? Same thing. I’d get a call. Maybe I sounded a bit nosy, but clarity is my vibe.

I leave, taking deep breaths, trying not to trip over the chaos of people still waiting, still whispering, still judging each other silently. And as I walk out, I feel it—relief, hope, nerves, and a tiny, quiet laugh at how absolutely crazy the whole thing was.

So, what did I learn?

1. Dress neatly, even if casual. You don’t need a suit, but looking put together counts more than you think.

2. Prepare, but expect surprises. You can study all the company info in the world, but interviews will throw curveballs. Flexibility is your secret weapon.

3. Ask questions professionally. Curiosity is good, nosiness isn’t. Two clear, smart questions are enough.

4. Attention to detail matters. From your documents to how you present yourself, small things leave big impressions.

5. Show up and stay composed. Chaos will happen. Waiting, stares, interruptions—they’re all part of the test. How you handle them tells more about you than any answer.

Walking away, I realized the interview wasn’t just about getting the job. It was about surviving the chaos, handling stress, staying confident, and learning from the process. The call hasn’t come yet, but I’m proud. I showed up. I stayed composed. And that, dreamers, is what counts.

- Lilo Phedra 

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$50 Million, Hairline Intact: How David E. Taylor Played God and Failed Basic Grooming 😱💸

Holy Money, Sinful Life: David E. Taylor Exposed

The Hairline That Defied Logic 😅

Yoh, let me tell you something… sometimes reality hits harder than your morning coffee. There’s this pastor—David E. Taylor. The man allegedly stole $50 million (and probably more over the years), spent it on luxury suits, Gucci, Louis Vuitton, watches, cars, jets, ATVs, and had a mansion big enough to host a small country.

And yet… somehow… his hairline was untouched. 🫣 Like, bro, you stole millions, flexed like a king, and couldn’t invest in a haircut or a proper hairline? That alone had me crying from laughter before I even started shaking my head at the money madness.

Money, Mansions, and Madness 💰🏠

[Credit: David E Taylor Facebook]

Now, let’s get serious. This isn’t just about cash. Oh no. We’re talking:

Human trafficking

Forced labor

Psychological and physical abuse

Luxury lifestyle fueled by blind donations

And the craziest part? People still supported him. Decades of warnings flew past, but donations kept rolling in. I’m telling you… if I had a rand for every time someone ignored the obvious… I could’ve rivaled that $50 million myself, minus the evil schemes of course 🙄 

Faith Doesn’t Buy Common Sense ✝️🤯

Here’s my hot take, my “girl behind the dream” truth: this is not God. This was a human. A greedy, manipulative human with a flair for luxury over logic.

For all the new Christians, discouraged believers, and dreamers scrolling at 2 AM: don’t let one clown with a mansion and jet skis convince you to leave your faith, your hope, or your dreams.

Imagine the Good He Could’ve Done 🥺💔

[Credit: David E Taylor Facebook]

50 million dollars, bro. Do you know how many communities could have been fed? Schools built? Lives transformed? Instead…

Mansion for one person 🏰

Jet skis, ATVs, and cars 🚗🛥️

Gucci shoes and Louis Vuitton everything 👞👜

All for him alone. Stingy, greedy, and selfish. And you know what? I don’t even fully blame him. I blame the people who ignored decades of warnings and kept funding this circus.

Investigate the Megachurches, Please! 🔍

Here’s my advice for investigators, FBI agents, police officers, and anyone who can dig: start looking into these megachurches worldwide. The abuses don’t stop at one pastor, one mansion, or $50 million. There’s more happening behind closed doors than most people can imagine.

This isn’t just a scandal—it’s a wake-up call. Human trafficking, abuse, and greed hiding under a religious façade… it’s happening, and it’s happening everywhere.

The Girl Behind the Dream Speaks 🫶💭

So, let this be a lesson: stay curious, stay critical, and never underestimate the power of blind faith—or a hairline that refuses to move, even for $50 million.

And for my fellow dreamers reading this? Remember: faith, hope, and integrity > mansions, watches, and jet skis. Always. 😉

💡 Extra Tip for Readers:

If you laughed, cried, or shook your head at this story, share it. Let’s make people think twice before sending their money to anyone claiming to “play God.”

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Grey Hair Is a Crown—So Why Are We So Scared to Wear It?

Age Is Just a Number”… Or Is It the Biggest Lie We Tell Ourselves?

You’ve heard it before. “Age is nothing but a number.” Some people drop that line like it’s gospel, others whisper it in denial, and some chant it like an affirmation in front of the mirror. But the question is—do they actually believe it? Or is it just fear wrapped up in a cute little phrase?

Now, let me tell you, I’ve seen this play out so many times—especially in my own community. Black aunties, uncles, classmates, even strangers online… it’s like their go-to line. You overhear them in a conversation, or see them post a selfie with “#AgeIsJustANumber” like it’s a protective shield. But deep down? A lot of people are scared. Scared to grow old. Scared to look old. Scared of what that next birthday candle really means.

And listen, I’m not judging. Looking young is a blessing. In fact, in my bloodline—especially on my dad’s side—we’ve got that fine-wine magic. My dad is clocking 60, but if you saw him, you’d swear he was 40. The man walks around with his youthful face like it’s nothing. But here’s the twist: he doesn’t hide behind the phrase. He actually loves that he’s getting older. He wears it proudly. No hashtags, no denial. Just embracing it.

On the other hand, let’s be real. Society doesn’t make it easy. The obsession with youth is everywhere—ads, influencers, even in the way people compliment you: “You don’t look your age!” (As if looking your age is a crime, right?) So maybe, just maybe, saying “age is just a number” is people’s way of coping with that pressure. A little pep talk to themselves that time hasn’t snatched their crown yet.

And speaking of crowns—grey hair. That’s the crown many don’t want to wear. I call it a blessing, a sign you’ve lived, survived, and kept going. But I also know people who’d rather dye it, hide it, or deny it than rock it. Meanwhile, some people never even get grey hair at all (shout out to my family for that rare gene).

So, is “age is just a number” a celebration of life? Or is it a cover-up for fear and insecurity? Maybe it’s both. Maybe it depends on who’s saying it, and why.

But one thing is clear: every birthday we get is proof we didn’t die prematurely. And honestly? That’s a bigger flex than pretending time isn’t ticking.

Now it’s your turn

Do you think “age is just a number” is empowerment, or just denial dressed up in cute words? Do you embrace your years like a crown, or do you wish you could freeze your timeline? Drop your thoughts below—I want the smoke, the honesty, the debates. Let’s talk.

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How Do You Kill Ubuntu? Film a Homeless Man Being Humiliated

Ubuntu Is Dead, And We Killed It With Laughter

On the 1st of September, South Africa welcomes spring with what many call a tradition: water fights, buckets poured, playful splashes that mark the season of new beginnings. Done among friends, it’s harmless. Done with strangers, it becomes reckless. But done to the vulnerable? It turns into cruelty.

Recently, a video surfaced online—a man, clearly homeless, drenched with a bucket of water by someone who thought it was entertainment. The man did not shout, did not curse, did not fight back. He simply walked away. And perhaps that silence was the loudest thing about the entire moment.

This is not just about Spring Day. It’s about Ubuntu.

Ubuntu is more than a word—it’s a philosophy, a way of life, a compass that reminds us: “I am because we are.” Yet in that video, and in the laughter that followed, Ubuntu was nowhere to be found. It wasn’t just water poured onto a man’s clothes. It was dignity being stripped away, humanity mocked in public view, and empathy discarded in exchange for a few likes and laughs.

And here’s the uncomfortable truth: we cannot blame only the man with the bucket. The bystanders drinking watched. The cameraman filmed. The online crowd laughed and shared. Everyone who participated in the cycle helped kill Ubuntu that day.

What’s worse is how easily we excuse it. “It’s just fun,” some say. But fun ends where another’s dignity begins. Friends can throw water at each other because they know there’s a change of clothes waiting at home. A homeless man doesn’t have that privilege. To target him was not fun. It was humiliation, plain and simple.

South Africa loves to speak of Ubuntu, but do we still live it? Over decades, it feels as if compassion has thinned, empathy has faded, and Ubuntu has been diluted into a slogan more than a practice. If what we saw in that video is any sign, then maybe Ubuntu is not just fading—it’s dying.

But here’s the thing: Ubuntu does not vanish on its own. We kill it, piece by piece, every time we laugh at pain, ignore injustice, or choose silence when dignity is under attack. And yet, the outrage this video stirred also tells me something else—that Ubuntu still breathes in those who refuse to normalize cruelty.

The question is: will we allow that breath to strengthen, or will we suffocate it with indifference?

Ubuntu isn’t dead yet. But if we keep laughing at suffering, we’ll be the ones who bury it.

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She Hid Her Newborn in a Closet and Got House Arrest: The Shocking Reality of a 21-Year-Old Cheerleader’s Crime"

From Cheerleader to Criminal: The Shocking Case of Laken Ashlee Snelling

[Credit: Google]

I can’t even start this quietly. I’m shaking just typing it. It’s the 4th of September, and the news is already crushing, but this? This is unbelievable. A 21-year-old University of Kentucky cheerleader, Laken Ashlee Snelling, literally hid her newborn baby in a closet. A baby! A life. Gone. Wrapped in a towel, stuffed in a trash bag, left there in silence. And what happened to her? She was released on $100,000 bond, living comfortably at her parents’ home with electronic monitoring. Are we serious right now?

I have so many questions I can barely contain them. How do you even reach the point where you think hiding a child is acceptable? How do you even process being a mother one second and then committing this atrocity the next? She once said she wanted to be a mother. Wanted. But here we are. A life erased. And she’s sitting at home, eating, calling, scrolling — partially free. Partially. Not punished. Not jailed.

People are already defending her. "Don’t judge." "It was a miscarriage." "Why didn’t she have an abortion?" Are you kidding me? How is this miscarriage if she carried full term and gave birth? And abortion? I’m against it. That's literally taking a life. But even without abortion, she had options. She could’ve given the baby for adoption. She could’ve asked family for help. She could’ve given the child to the father’s side. None of that happened. Instead, a life was silently stolen from the world.

And the worst part? She’s basically my age. Twenty-one. One year older than me. Someone I could have seen in class, walked past in the hall, smiled at — now she’s part of a headline that leaves me horrified, frustrated, and furious. Was it really impossible to prevent pregnancy? Was it impossible to face reality with responsibility and honesty? Apparently, yes. For her.

[Credit: Instagram]

And then there’s the justice system. She gets house arrest. That’s it. She eats, sleeps, calls friends, watches TV, all while the child she destroyed has no voice, no future. The law gave her comfort, not consequence. What is happening to our society? Are we normalizing partial freedom for someone who hid a baby in a closet? This is morally repulsive.

Judgment isn’t cruelty. Judgment is accountability. Judgment is society saying, "We will not stand for this." Some people say, “Nobody’s perfect, don’t judge.” Well, exactly. That’s why we must judge. For justice. For the child. For every person who could face this kind of tragedy. This must not be excused. This must not be normalized.

[Credit: Instagram Ashlee Smelling]

I want to hear from you. Agree, disagree, critique, analyze, question, am I being overly dramatic— I want all of it.  Don’t scroll past. This story demands conversation, outrage, and reflection. A baby is gone. A 21-year-old sits at home. And the world is watching. What do we do now? 😞 

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