Sunday, February 23, 2025

When Your Choices Are Never Enough

 
Sunday Reflections: When My Choices Are Never Enough

The Dreamer’s Pause has always been my safe space, my diary, my journal. It's where I let my thoughts flow, my emotions breathe, and my experiences take shape in words. Sometimes, I wonder how many people read these entries, but most of the time, it's just for me. It’s my own place to process, to heal, to be.

Today is Sunday. Church day. A day that, in many ways, is supposed to bring peace, yet often brings an internal storm instead.

My mom recently bought me some new outfits, and I was grateful, but I have always preferred a simple look for church. Not too plain, just simple in a way that makes me feel comfortable. I woke up, did my chores, not all of them, but enough. I got dressed in a skirt and a sleeveless top, put on my favorite small earrings, and wore my hair in neat, straight-back cornrows. No makeup, no purse—just my phone and my Bible. I wanted to feel at ease.

But little did I know that my parents wouldn’t approve.

The moment my mom saw me, I could feel the disapproval before she even spoke. "You look too old." "Why didn't you wear the wig I got you?" "Why not some makeup?" "Why not a nicer top?" It was as if everything I chose for myself was wrong. As if I needed to fit into a mold I never designed for myself.


I love dressing up for church, but I also love wearing what feels right for me. Sometimes, I just want to wear jeans and a nice top with sneakers, something effortless yet put together. But if I say that out loud, I already know the response: "You look like those Camps Bay kids who don’t know how to dress." But the thing is, I do know how to dress—just not in a way that pleases them.

I’m 19. Almost 20. And yet, I feel like my choices are never enough.

The hardest part is keeping it all inside. I know how African parents are. Mental health isn’t something they acknowledge, and depression is just a word to them. But for me, it’s real. The smallest words, the tiniest comparisons, can bring back emotions I thought I had healed from.


I thought I was improving, that my style was evolving. I even wrote about it in my previous blogs. But it seems like no matter how much effort I put in, it’s never enough. And what hurts the most? The contradiction. They say, "Tell us how you feel, be open with us," but the moment I express myself, I’m ungrateful, I’m talking back, I’m being disrespectful.

So, I keep quiet. I swallow the words that burn my throat. I nod and move on, even when I feel like I’m losing pieces of myself along the way.

Right now, my only prayer is to find a good job, to succeed in my NSC rewrite, to be accepted into university again, and to create a future where I can finally make my own choices without the weight of disappointment hanging over me.

I’m trying. I really am. And maybe one day, my choices will be enough.🤞🏿


Friday, February 21, 2025

The Silent War Against Christians



The Silent War Against Christians: Understanding the Truth Behind the Violence

It’s hard to ignore what’s been happening in the world today, especially when you take a moment to really think about the persecution of Christians. The news often gives us snippets of violence and terror, but there’s a pattern that’s being overlooked. Christians are being killed—slaughtered, even—by extremist groups in countries where they should be safe. Most of the time, these groups are radical Muslim extremists, and it's been going on for far too long.

Let’s take Congo, for example. A recent report from CBN News revealed that 70 Christians were brutally beheaded in the Congo, which shocked the world. But was it really a shock? This kind of violence has been happening all around the globe, and in many cases, the attackers share a similar agenda.

The Growing List of Christian Persecution

There are countries where Christians have been persecuted, tortured, and killed for their beliefs by these radical groups. Here are just a few of the many places where violence against Christians has escalated:

Nigeria: Boko Haram, an extremist Muslim group, has carried out countless attacks against Christian communities, abducting young girls, burning churches, and killing families. Over 10,000 Christians have been murdered in the last decade alone.

Sri Lanka: In April 2019, a series of bombings targeted Christian churches during Easter services. More than 250 people were killed by Islamic State-linked terrorists.

Pakistan: Christians have been under attack for years in Pakistan, with churches bombed, families attacked, and individuals persecuted for their faith. In 2021, a Christian woman was sentenced to death for allegedly blaspheming against the Quran.

Egypt: Coptic Christians in Egypt have been attacked multiple times by extremist Muslim groups. Churches have been bombed, and countless lives have been lost in the name of jihad.

Central African Republic: Radical groups like the Seleka and Anti-Balaka have carried out atrocities against Christians, forcing them to flee their homes or face execution.


The Role of the Quran in Radical Ideologies


Many might argue that not all Muslims follow the teachings of the Quran the way extremists do. But the truth is that certain verses in the Quran have been used to justify violence against Jews and Christians for centuries. These verses fuel hate and have been misinterpreted and used by radical groups to promote their violent actions.

For example, Quran 9:30 says:
"The Jews say, 'Uzair is the son of Allah,' and the Christians say, 'The Messiah is the son of Allah.' That is their statement from their mouths; they imitate the saying of those who disbelieved before. May Allah destroy them; how are they deluded?"

In Quran 5:51, Muslims are warned not to take Jews and Christians as allies:
"O you who have believed, do not take the Jews and the Christians as allies. They are [in fact] allies of one another. And whoever is an ally to them among you – then indeed, he is one of them."

And in Quran 98:6, non-Muslims are described as the worst of creatures:
"Indeed, those who disbelieve – among the People of the Scripture and the polytheists – will be in hellfire, abiding eternally therein. They are the worst of creatures."

These verses have been used by radical groups as justification for their violence. It’s clear that these teachings have been twisted by extremist factions to create hatred toward non-Muslims, particularly Christians and Jews. And while not every Muslim follows these teachings, we cannot ignore how these groups use them to fuel their jihad.

M23 and the Growing Threat in Congo



Now, let’s turn to the situation in Congo, where the M23 rebel group has been wreaking havoc. M23 has recently taken over important cities like Bukavu and Goma, areas that have significant Christian populations. The attacks on Christians here are not isolated incidents but part of a larger, more organized agenda. Many believe that M23 is being sponsored by neighboring Rwanda, a country with its own interests in the region. If this is true, it means that not only are the Christians of Congo being targeted, but the international community is being deceived about the true motives behind these attacks.



The Congolese government has struggled to address this crisis, and with no immediate help from the global powers, it feels as though the Christians in Congo are fighting this battle alone. It’s heartbreaking when you see people calling out for help, but no one is listening, and they continue to suffer in silence.


The world is watching, but are we doing enough? Do we care enough to stop this violence before it spreads to other countries? It’s clear that unless something is done, we will see more countries fall to extremism, where the lives of innocent Christians are at risk.

The Role of Rwanda in Supporting Radical Groups


There’s another layer to all this that cannot be ignored—the role of Rwanda in supporting these radical groups, especially M23. The theory that Rwanda is behind the rise of M23 and their attacks on Christian populations is something that needs to be addressed. Why is it that Rwanda, a nation that once experienced its own tragic genocide, is now allegedly aiding groups that bring death and destruction to their neighbors? It’s a question that needs to be asked, and one that we cannot ignore.

The Larger Issue: A Global Struggle Against Radical Extremism



The truth is that we are seeing a pattern. The Quran has been used to justify the persecution of Christians for a long time. This isn’t just a small group of extremists misinterpreting their religion—these are teachings that have been used to justify violence against Jews and Christians. Whether it's in Africa, Asia, or the Middle East, radical Muslim extremists are targeting Christian communities, and it’s time the world took notice.

It’s not about all Muslims, but it’s about those who use their faith to justify terror and violence. Why aren’t we doing more to stop this? Why aren’t we talking about how the global community has failed to protect Christians? And why is it that countries where Muslim extremist groups have control continue to be ignored?


The Unfairness of the Global Response

One thing that stands out in this situation is the incredible unfairness in how Muslim extremists are treated. When these extremist groups come to a Christian country, they often receive a free pass, and their behavior is overlooked or excused. We are told not to speak out against them for fear of being labeled Islamophobic, yet they are free to act however they wish.

In the West, where they are granted freedom and privilege, they do not show the same respect for their host countries or the people who welcome them. You hear stories of Muslims disrespecting the laws of their host countries, committing crimes, and even being excused for their actions. But when Christians go to Muslim-majority countries, they are often treated with hostility, their rights are restricted, and they are punished for not following strict interpretations of Islamic law. Christians have been forgiving for centuries, adhering to the values of love and peace, but this cannot go on forever. There has to be a limit when it comes to unfair treatment and the violence that these extremists inflict.



What Can We Do?

As Christians, we can’t just sit back and ignore what’s happening. The persecution of Christians needs to be acknowledged, and it’s up to us to raise our voices. Whether it’s in Congo, Nigeria, Pakistan, or Burkina Faso, we need to stand up for our brothers and sisters who are being killed for their faith. We need to speak out and make sure the world sees this for what it truly is—an ongoing attack on Christianity and human rights.

What do you think about what’s happening around the world? Are we doing enough to stop the persecution of Christians? Let me know in the comments below—I’d love to hear your thoughts.

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