The Biggest Lie: Mothers Can’t Abandon Their Children

Deadbeat Mothers Exist – But Society Pretends They Don’t

Here’s a truth nobody wants to say out loud: mothers can be deadbeats too. Yep, I said it. And now that you’ve gasped, unclutch your pearls and actually think about it.

We live in a world where the word “deadbeat” is tattooed exclusively onto fathers. Men are the ones who “walk away,” who “abandon their families,” who “fail their kids.” But scroll through TikTok long enough, and you’ll start to see cracks in that story. You’ll find women—mothers—who are selfish, careless, and entirely unfit, yet still furious when custody goes to the father.

Why? Because sometimes the fight isn’t about the children. It’s about control. It’s about the money that comes with having the children. The sad part? Society almost never calls them out. Fathers who step up are treated like villains, while deadbeat mothers get a sympathy card and a “but she’s the mom.”

Let’s get real: once you have kids, that person you chose as your partner never leaves your life. Even if you separate, even if they die, your children are living reminders of the seed you allowed to take root. Choose the wrong partner and you’re bound for a lifetime contract you can’t rip up. That’s not romance, that’s reality.

And here’s where it gets even more uncomfortable: women shout for equality, but where’s the equality when it comes to the dirty work? The dangerous, back-breaking, grime-filled jobs? Waste collection. Sewage cleaning. Coal mining. Oil rigs. Logging. Welding. Demolition. The jobs where fingernails aren’t polished—they’re broken. Men do them. Men die doing them. Nobody’s marching for 50/50 representation there.

So let’s cut the act: equality between men and women in every sphere? It’s a fantasy. Life will always tip unevenly, and sometimes unfairly. And maybe—just maybe—we should stop pretending it doesn’t.

Because until we can admit that deadbeat mothers do exist, until we admit that “equality” doesn’t stretch into sewage pipes and coal dust, until we admit that accountability is genderless—society will stay exactly where it is: loud about men, silent about women.

And silence, my friends, is the biggest deadbeat of them all.

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