You’re Not Doing That BBL for You, Sis — Let’s Be Fr Fr for Once 😭

You’re Not Doing That BBL for You, Sis — Let’s Be Fr Fr for Once 😭

Unfiltered thoughts on wigs, waist snatching, and why it’s (almost always) about men.

Let me start by saying this: I already know I’m about to get dragged. 😭

But you clicked this post because you were curious… and deep down, you probably knew I was about to say something realer than your fave influencer’s “self-love” caption.

So here it is:

All this stuff — the BBLs, the wigs, the lashes, the full-beat face at 8AM, the snatched waists, the Botox, the designer labels — is not just for "yourself."

You didn’t spend R90K on a Brazilian butt lift and then nearly die in Turkey just because “you love you.”

Come on now. Be serious.

“I do it for me!” — But do you really?

Sis, I believe in self-love. I support confidence. But can we stop lying to ourselves and admit that male attention is still in the room — sipping tea, watching you pose on IG, and whispering "job well done" in the shadows?

You want to feel beautiful? Yes.

You want to be empowered? Love that for you.

You want to walk into a room and have people gasp? Slay.

But who’s in that room? Who’s gasping?

Who do you want to notice all this work you put in?

Men.

Say it with me: M-E-N.

The Competition Olympics

“But I’m doing it for the girls!”

Aight. Let’s talk about that.

You’re competing with other women, yes — but why?

To win what prize, exactly?

To be crowned “the baddest” on the TL?

To get more compliments? More likes?

To get picked first when there are options?

Don’t play with me.

Even the “girl vs. girl” competition is rooted in who gets the most male attention.

Let’s Talk About the 🍑 in the Room

Now… let’s address the national treasure of beauty standards:

The Butt.

Yes. The booty. The wagon. The nyash. Whatever you call it.

A lot of men worship it.

Let’s not pretend we don’t know why BBLs are the most requested surgery out here.

We all know what’s going on.

Men made the butt a VIP section. Women made it a business plan. 😂

It’s Giving… “You’re Just Jealous!”

Look, I’m not hating.

I’m not saying don’t enhance yourself.

I’m not saying you shouldn’t feel hot, empowered, confident, and in your bag.

I’m just saying: stop acting like men have nothing to do with it.

They do. And you know it. And that’s okay! MAYBE 😏 

But don’t come on your TikTok with your flawless contour and say,

> “I’m not doing this for men. I don’t even care what they think!”

Sis. A man just liked your photo 0.3 seconds after you posted it, and your caption was “He wish.”

Come on. Let’s be fr fr.

Final Word Before the Comment Section Erupts

I’m not attacking.

I’m not bitter.

I’m just tired of the pretending.

Let’s admit it:

Insecurities? Real.

Competition? Real.

Self-love? Yes.

But the male gaze? STILL very real.😜

So if you’re mad, go off in the comments. I want the smoke.

Let’s debate, let’s yell, let’s laugh.

But one thing we’re not gonna do today?

Lie. 🤥

I’m here for all of it.😊